Saturday, November 14, 2009

Grateful for the questions

Most of the time spent in a Spiritual Direction session involves my remaining silent and listening.  But sometimes when I'm listening to someone who is confused or who seems to be filled with more questions than answers, I start to think that I should be coming up with answers.  And once I start thinking of answers I know that I have stepped away from Spiritual Direction and moved towards fixing and advice-giving....and this is not my role...

This story from Anthony de Mello  speaks well to what my role truly is:

Two men were once walking through a field when they saw an angry bull. Instantly they made for the nearest fence with the bull in hot pursuit. It soon became evident to them that they were not going to make it, so one man shouted to the other, “We’ve had it! Nothing can save us. Say a prayer. Quick!”

The other shouted back, “I’ve never prayed in my life and I don’t have a prayer for this occasion.”
“Never mind. The bull is catching up with us. Any prayer will do.”
“Well, I’ll say the one I remember my father used to say before meals; For what we are about to receive, Lord, make us truly grateful."


If we are able to develop the spiritual practice of being grateful for all the impossible situations that we encounter on a daily basis then the questions may dissipate in the realization that they are all already answered.
I'm still at the beginning stages of this level of gratefulness.  How about you?

5 comments:

Jayne said...

Well, because truthfully, everything that happens is part of the path of taking us where we are supposed to be, right? :c)

ROBERTA said...

that's it, isn't it Jayne? Give thanks in all things...

Ruth Hull Chatlien said...

Great story. I'm in the beginning stages of gratefulness too, but I'm trying to be more intentional of giving thanks every day.

(Have you ever seen the movie The Searchers? It has a scene very like your bull story.)

Kay said...

Anthony De Mello??!! Totally Portuguese.....and a bull story to boot!!!

ROBERTA said...

Ruth, are you talking about the John Wayne movie? haven't seen that one in years!