Saturday, November 22, 2014
here.) Tamara goes into more detail on the site but here are the 7 habits she describes:
1) Your default belief is that life is hard.
2) You believe most people can't be trusted.
3) You focus on what's wrong with the world vs. what's right.
4) You compare yourself to others and harbor jealousy.
5) You strive to control your life.
6) You consider your future with worry and fear.
7) You fill your conversation with gossip and complaints.
Know anyone who fits all 7? how about 5? 3? how about yourself? I see several that I know quite intimately. And even if none of these apply to you, being around someone who lives these mantras can be draining and exhausting.
One of the things I've learned working as a hospice chaplain is that even though someone may have spent a large portion of their life viewing the world through several pairs of these skewed glasses, by the time they receive a hospice referral and we have had an opportunity to talk about their impending death, most of these beliefs have been allowed to fade into the background, seen to be not as important to keep holding onto, or even viewed with some humor. When faced with death, many begin to see more clearly or at least get a new prescription for their glasses. Let's not wait until then to change our unhappiness habits.
unhappy sunflower taken from wallpaper4me.com