"The trouble with steeling yourself against the harshness of reality
is that the same steel that secures your life against being destroyed
secures your life also against being opened up and transformed
by the holy power that life itself comes from.
You can survive on your own.
You can grow strong on your own.
You can even prevail on your own.
But you cannot become human on your own."
- F. Buechner, The Sacred Journey